In my opinion, before you are able to make changes to the world around you, you have to be willing to make changes to yourself. What I mean is, working on you is the key to changing the world around you. If you can be comfortable and confident with yourself, you can take on almost anything.
In the United States, self-help is a $10 billion a year industry; between bookstores and online spots, a person has access to hundreds, if not thousands, of self-help books and articles. Many of these books or articles are written by licensed professionals, and others are written from a person’s life experience. Either of these two perspectives are valid and relating to one more than the other depends on your personality and the traits you need to fix. For example, if you need help with mental health issues, you should almost always consult a medically licensed professional first, and then after, reading about another person’s experience with mental health may be able to help you cope.
Working on you is not something anyone should be embarrassed about. If you can’t help yourself, how can you help those around you? Being in tune with yourself allows you to be more in tune with other people. How can you see the true beauty of everything else if you can’t see the beauty of yourself?
This is arguably, the hardest part of you to work on. Now I don’t mean work on as in get fit, get skinny, that type of nonsense. I mean work on you so that you can embrace, accept, and love what you look like. I used to look in the mirror and my eyes would zero in on every single flaw that I have. I used to cry because of my acne and wish that I had thinner legs or that I had a longer stomach. However, one day, I woke up and I refused to keep living like that. I started to look at myself in the mirror and pick one part of my body that I liked that day. I also started dressing in a way that made me comfortable and confident. Wearing trends is cool and all but nothing beats wearing your favourite sweater and a pair of leggings. I now accept that what I look like is how it is and I figure out where to go from there. For example, I have acne so I make sure that I wash my face every night AND moisturize so that I take care of my skin and hopefully better it. But I don’t harp over the fact that I have acne – I embrace it.
Dear you, make peace with the mirror and watch your reflection change. – Unknown
Working on yourself mentally and emotionally is another feat in itself. Making sure that you are the best person you can be is essential in making the world a better place. If we could all tap in to our inner best, the world would be a lot happier! Cutting out all negativity, releasing harboured emotions, and doing things you love are all ways in which you can better yourself mentally. For example, I stopped doing things that I didn’t enjoy just because other people wanted me to. I no longer go out on the weekends because I don’t like it; I would much rather stay at home, curl up in bed, and watch Netflix. That’s ok. Since I have started doing things I enjoy, I find myself to be a more pleasant person all around. I have learned what makes me happy and what doesn’t and I use that information to make better choices.
Nobody can make you happy until you’re happy with yourself first. – Unknown
Working on you isn’t easy and it definitely never stops. Working on you is lifelong and there is no particular end-goal which can be frustrating for some. But I promise you, as soon as you start working on you, the world around you will shift for the better. Start now.
Let today be the day you love yourself enough to no longer just dream of a better life; let it be the day you act upon it. – Steve Maraboli